Internet addiction and young people – Gaming, gambling and porn at a click

How can we spend so much of our ever-diminishing sense of available time looking at what people are eating for breakfast?  Why do so many people want to know which cake best represents their life? What is it about the internet that gets to us?  When you consider that amount of time you lose […]

By |November 13th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Can confidence actually come from a “Certificate of Participation”?

Wouldn’t it be handy if you could go and get some confidence in a jar?

I don’t think confidence is available in jar form as yet.  I’m also not entirely sure that confidence necessarily comes from a “certificate of participation, either, but I can see where people are coming from when they try this.  I […]

By |August 29th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Shame: Coaching versus criticism

What secrets do you keep about yourself?  What are you ashamed about?

Shame is the feeling that arises when we think about ourselves as being “bad”, or “wrong”, or “broken”.  Shame is a negative evaluation of the self – different from guilt which is a negative evaluation of our actions or behaviour. Guilt is where […]

By |August 7th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Why we need attachments – from birth and especially after trauma

For a long time now we have known that people need people.

In the 1930’s, Harry Harlow conducted studies with baby rhesus monkeys.  He made surrogate monkey mothers out of wire and wood and some he covered with cloth.  The babies had a preference for the soft covered monkeys, even if the wire monkeys held […]

By |July 24th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Why teenagers (and young adults) still need parenting

The human brain is a very complex piece of living “equipment”.  The brain is constantly working, changing and updating.  It’s potential is truly amazing and if you have watched and delighted in how children grow and become more clever over time, then you will know exactly what I mean.

The brain develops from a mass […]

By |July 17th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Why we love to worry (especially about children) and why we shouldn’t

Worries are those thoughts we have where we predict the future – but not in a good way.  We predict that something bad is going to happen and because our brain is thinking about something bad or threatening, the rest of our body can get worked up, too.  So, we can start to feel […]

By |July 10th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Change – What to do when people don’t want to change their behaviour

How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?

One, but the light bulb has got to want to change!
How do we help someone change?  If a person wants to change, then the process can seem a bit easier.  But what happens when a person is reluctant to change a habit or behaviour […]

By |July 3rd, 2016|General|0 Comments

Getting kids to eat their vegetables

Have you ever wondered why we eat the food that we eat?  In an age where, despite knowing the health risk, we still have large proportions of us who are overweight and, sadly, a large number of children who are overweight, too.

Usually, humans eat for three main reasons:

We eat because we are hungry. […]

By |June 26th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Getting activated:  What does Elizabeth’s wading pool have to do with happiness?

At various times in our lives, for a variety of reasons, we can get too busy, too sick, too tired, too sore, too “I-can’t-be-bothered” or even, concerningly, too depressed to do the day to day pleasant things that are ever-so-important to a happy mood.
When people stop doing the things that they normally do – […]

By |June 19th, 2016|General|0 Comments

Questions psychologists get asked at parties – barriers to accessing psychology?

When people casually enquire into what you do for a living and I tell them I’m a Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, I get a range of responses.  I’m proud of my title and my profession.  It represents a lot of hard work.  However, telling people what I do can, sometimes, change the mood of […]

By |June 12th, 2016|General|0 Comments